Perfectionism

I used to identify as a perfectionist. I spent years only sharing what I deemed to be the ‘perfect’ parts of my creative endeavours.
What I didn't realise, was that perfectionism is an excuse and it was keeping me stuck.

I was spent a lot of time thinking about all the amazing ideas I had, but I wasn’t going actually bringing any of them into reality, which left me feeling stuck and frustrated.

I told myself daily that I had to do everything perfectly otherwise it wasn't worth doing. The problem here, is that you don’t become good at something by waiting to become good at something…

You need to go out and do it, and be willing to suck at it first. That is how you become good at something.

This requires self trust, self belief and resilience. In my Perfect Pete days, my opinion of myself was pretty low. I didn't spend much time believing in myself and whilst maybe I was persistent, I wasn’t very resilient.

Our brains are already naturally programmed to see what’s wrong, so that’s what it will always look for. It finds negative thoughts that create negative emotions and will keep on producing these thoughts unless we learn how to manage our minds (which I absolutely wasn't at the time). I was the captive audience and I believed I had to be perfect otherwise I would be rejected. 

But, you can override this, your identity is not fixed.

Your identity is built daily based on your thoughts and beliefs about yourself. The exciting news is you can change your beliefs and thoughts about yourself at any time, and this is the work I LOVE doing with my clients, I can show you how to create a new identity from a place of safety and alignment. 

Can you allow yourself to consider the possibility of one day not being a perfectionist? The more certain you are of that possibility, the more likely you are to start moving towards it. 

If you are afraid of being shit, being rejected or just generally not being perfect? Imagine being willing to feel those feelings without fear. Just let your brain consider that it could be a possibility and see what comes up for you.

To overcome perfectionism its essential to learn how to process uncomfortable emotions (fear or failure, fear of rejection) these emotions are supposed to come up when you venture outside of your comfort zone. Then to commit to having your own back, when you do this you can cultivate courage and lean into vulnerability and as a result you will start creating new opportunities for yourself and a stronger relationship with yourself.

If you would love to dive deeper into building your new identity and letting go of perfectionism, book a free clarity call with me here,

I can't wait to meet you!